Of Minis, leather pants and a Trench coat.

Damaris Muga

That is my friend Awuor in Rome.  Rocking the mini in a way that I want to do right now. The other day the sun showed out kidogo, well not really kidogo it was the proper summer sun. It is summer in several parts of the globe too. The girls in other parts of the world like you can see from my friend up there have all taken out their minis and short shorts, I dont lie.

Here is  my other  friend Shar skating in Berlin - who you can follow on Youtube - MissSharz for some amazing natural hair care tips and tuts. Thank me later.

Dont even bother trying to say she is sporting, can you skate like this in CBD?

and  the lovely Trysh up and about with her boy in NY

I shall never get to do this in this city unless I have a car and am going to village market. So so saaaad it makes me want to cry!

I dont know what it is with Africans in Africa and mini dresses and skirts. You CANNOT walk around like this in Nairobi during the day, even going to the supermarket next to you, wacha supermarkets are a bit further the Kiosk!!!

If you try these looks then you are getting into your car and you are going to walk around in a mall, say like junction, galleria or Sarit, after your shopping and lunch dates in this mall, you will get into your car that is parked within the mall and get out of that car when you get to your compound.

Otherwise the regular girl has to wear it with thick tights. And even that is difficult if you are going to walk around CBD. I see some women doing that, not women, girls and am just wondering whats the point of the whole short thing if you are going to add thick socks to it.

Mini skirts were banned in Swaziland back in 2012. Read about it here. The mini along side low slung jeans were criminalised. As in you will be arrested and jailed for 6 months!

“The act of the rapist is made easy because it would be easy to remove the half-cloth worn by the women,” said the police spokeswoman.

A woman actually said that. It is funny because the indlamu is a tiny piece of thing that barely covers the ass. Apparently that is fit for the king.

There it it is. For some strange reason during this dance the men don't jump on the girls and start raping them left and right.

Men also don't jump on the women at night in clubs, it is just during the day that they get the rape crazies. 

Really can someone ask for me the men folk what causes the rape hormone to rise during the day in cities of Africa?

How come the men whose women dress like this don't rape them? Some african tribes still dress like this, and before the white folks got here, technically all women were moving about more or less like this.

Uganda too proposed a bill to that effect. With Simon Lokodo, Uganda's ethics and integrity minister, defending the plans. "It's outlawing any indecent dressing including miniskirts," he said.

"Any attire which exposes intimate parts of the human body, especially areas that are of erotic function, are outlawed. Anything above the knee is outlawed. If a woman wears a miniskirt, we will arrest her." Ethics and integrity minister, ethics and integrity!!!

Read the story here 

What is it with our men, I have had some discussions with young men and they were of the mind that yes minis should be banned. 

Which begs the question why is it only African men prone to raping women in short skirts, how come the Europeans and Americans are not doing it?.

Every day you see people going about dressed like this and nobody is raping them. Somebody even suggested that jeans are OK, because it is impossible to rape a woman in jeans.

Seeing this just makes me sad. Try wearing this leather mini and then take a matatu and get off at bus station, you will not get past Tuskys, I have been heckled there ( I got really scared) I was wearing my leather pants and a looooong shirt just like this!! its is the only reason I will go back to holiday in Europe, I have shorts and skirts just getting mold in the closet, I can only wear them when washing my clothes, my expensive shorts have become laundry uniform, how sad is that?

*SIGH* Talking of leather I have some somewhere and I just saw this, which has motivated me to start dressing and taking pictures again. Anyway forget the minis, the cold weather is back.

If I get my leather pants good. If I do not then I will attempt a Kate Moss look I have just seen on the net. Best to post it when I have done that.

Have you noticed that I did not attend all those things I said I would attend. One I had a meeting, that I had to attend, this meeting involved some heavy amounts of the sweet nectar, needless to say my Saturday and Sunday were ruined.

I had posted the boyfriend and leather Jacket look on our Facebook Page then I noticed my girl Helen with it and I think she is carrying it very well.

And a TRENCH COAT! I am still loving loving the trench coat, so lets just agree that I will be throwing ideas in here for no apparent reason other than I said and a trench coat in the heading

My child from another mother has a birthday. Wacha I go attend!

Do have a lovely week ahead people.

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Reed Dance Confirmed

This August & September will see a hive of colourful activity in the tiny Kingdom of Swaziland as ‘Umhlanga’, or Annual Reed Dance Festival, begins.

The festival this year will start on August 27^th, with the main day of the event (day 7) to happen on September 2^nd. This is when the main ceremony occurs, with the dancing attended by the King. This will be a public holiday in Swaziland.

This ceremony is a centuries old tradition where the Kingdom’s unmarried and childless females present their newly cut reed to the Queen Mother to protect her residence. The King sometimes makes use of the occasion to publicly court a prospective fiancée or Liphovela.

When the main day arrives, young women from all over Swaziland and beyond her borders converge on the royal residence in Ludzidzini for this momentous occasion.

Maidens gather in groups and head out along riverbanks to cut and collect tall reeds, bind them and return to Ludzidzini, the Royal Homestead in Lobamba. 

Tens of thousands of maidens, led by Swazi princesses, provide a sea of colour as they dance and sing, proudly carrying their cut reeds. Traditionally, virginity is a pre-requisite for participation as it is considered taboo for an ‘impure’ woman to cut the reed.

Residents of this tiny mountainous Kingdom are intensely proud of their deep culture and taking part in the Festival is a proud and privileged moment for all the family.

The highlight of the event is the reed-giving ceremony - one of Africa’s largest and most colourful cultural spectacles. The maidens gather at Ludzidzini dressed in traditional attire; bright short beaded skirts with colourful sashes revealing their bare breasts to dance and sing and celebrate the unification of the Kingdom’s women. His Majesty King Mswati lll joins the celebrations to pay tribute to the maidens.

At the end of the day, the maidens present their cut reeds to the Queen Mother, Ndlovukazi, and the protective Guma (reed fence) around her homestead will be rebuilt.

The Umhlanga Festival is a visual spectacle that bonds this small but perfectly formed nation. Its ever- increasing popularity defies the apparent decline of traditional cultures elsewhere in Africa. Witnessing this festival is a truly unique experience. Visitors are welcome, but are vastly outnumbered by the participants!  This is a traditional event that allows spectators, not one that exists for spectators.

See it for yourself and experience Swaziland’s unique blend of ancient culture, pristine wilderness, year round wildlife and spirit of adventure!

For more information about the event, plus information on tours/packages in Swaziland that include the Reed Dance

Reed dance is one of the most adored and respected dances in South Africa. The Zulus consider it important even to the extent that it is even attended by their leaders. In Zululand, the dance takes place each year in September at the royal palace. Girls from all parts of Zululand and several other parts come to participate in the dance. The girls are supposed to wear traditional attires which include beads, bracelets, necklaces and colored sashes. During the celebrations, the women dance for their king with exposed breasts and bottoms. As the name suggests, during the dance, each girl carries a long reed which is deposited on the floor at the approach of the king. The girls are required to choose the longest and the strongest reeds. The dance is led by a chief’s daughter or the Zulu princess. See Also: 20 South African Songs You Should Listen To Here are 10 Facts about the Reed Dance You’ve Never Heard of 1. The Dance was Introduced in 1991 as a Way of Encouraging the Girls to Delay Sexual Activity Zulus discourage sex before marriage and this dance was created as a way of promoting that. One of the ceremony’s events is the test for virginity. If the reed breaks before the girl reaches a specified point, it is considered that the girl is no longer a virgin. 2. It Takes Eight Days Reed dance takes the whole week and an extra day before it is concluded. During each day, various practices are conducted. The king should attend Two out of the eight days. 3. It Fosters Self Esteem Individuals who participate in the dance are sure of what they have. Virgins are sure to pass the test since they have the courage that they have not engaged in any activity that is considered evil by the society. 4. It Boosts Cohesion The fact that thousands of girls from the neighboring territories are encouraged to participate in the dance means that the communities are destined to always coexist. South Africa’s president is said to constantly attend such dances in South Africa and this shows that it brings cohesion. In Swaziland, King Mswati normally picks his wife’s from the participants regardless of their tribes. reed dance 3 sowetanlive.co.za See Also: Xhosa people, Tradition and Dance More Astonishing Facts about the Reed Dance 5. It is a Form of Anti-aids Campaign All participants in the dance are required not to engage in sex before marriage. It is interesting that this requirement has been adhered to by the girls as evident by the number of girls who participate in the dance. 6. It Entails no Competition This eight-day ceremony is not a form of competition. It is meant to bring cohesion and a way of rebuilding the culture from apartheid. It also promotes a sense of cultural identity which is essential for nation building. 7. Unauthorized Photography is Prohibited Taking photos during the dance is discouraged. The dance is considered a traditional practice and it should not be confused with pornography. Since the photos should not be published on media platforms and phonographic sites, the Zulus discourage unauthorized photography. 8. The Ceremony is not Centuries Old Despite the fact that it has taken root, it should be remembered that in Swaziland, the dance commenced during the reign of king Mswati. Reed Dance 2 9. The Activities that Take Place During the Dance Does not Signify that All is Well in Swaziland Normally, dances are meant to signify the good things in the society. Dances are common during celebrations and graduations but this is not the case in Swaziland. In this regard, we should not be fooled into believing and thinking that all is well in the kingdom of Eswatini. It is even surprising to note that about 80% of the girls who participate in the dance come from families who rely on food aids while their king ranks among the richest individuals in Africa if not in the whole world. 10. The Dance is Full of Controversies There are a couple of controversies that surround the practice. For example, the dance is meant to discourage sex before marriage thus reducing the spread of sexually transmitted diseases such as Aids. However, Aids can also be contracted through anal sex which happens quite often in the kingdom and this defeats the purpose of reducing sexually transmitted diseases. A girl who has practiced anal sex is still considered a virgin during the dance. The criterion used in testing virginity is controversial too. Conclusion Various facts, information and controversies have been given about the reed dance. Some individuals and societies support the dance while some are against it, it’s left for you to judge

Read more: http://buzzsouthafrica.com/reed-dance/

Reed dance is one of the most adored and respected dances in South Africa. The Zulus consider it important even to the extent that it is even attended by their leaders. In Zululand, the dance takes place each year in September at the royal palace. Girls from all parts of Zululand and several other parts come to participate in the dance. The girls are supposed to wear traditional attires which include beads, bracelets, necklaces and colored sashes. During the celebrations, the women dance for their king with exposed breasts and bottoms. As the name suggests, during the dance, each girl carries a long reed which is deposited on the floor at the approach of the king. The girls are required to choose the longest and the strongest reeds. The dance is led by a chief’s daughter or the Zulu princess. See Also: 20 South African Songs You Should Listen To Here are 10 Facts about the Reed Dance You’ve Never Heard of 1. The Dance was Introduced in 1991 as a Way of Encouraging the Girls to Delay Sexual Activity Zulus discourage sex before marriage and this dance was created as a way of promoting that. One of the ceremony’s events is the test for virginity. If the reed breaks before the girl reaches a specified point, it is considered that the girl is no longer a virgin. 2. It Takes Eight Days Reed dance takes the whole week and an extra day before it is concluded. During each day, various practices are conducted. The king should attend Two out of the eight days. 3. It Fosters Self Esteem Individuals who participate in the dance are sure of what they have. Virgins are sure to pass the test since they have the courage that they have not engaged in any activity that is considered evil by the society. 4. It Boosts Cohesion The fact that thousands of girls from the neighboring territories are encouraged to participate in the dance means that the communities are destined to always coexist. South Africa’s president is said to constantly attend such dances in South Africa and this shows that it brings cohesion. In Swaziland, King Mswati normally picks his wife’s from the participants regardless of their tribes. reed dance 3 sowetanlive.co.za See Also: Xhosa people, Tradition and Dance More Astonishing Facts about the Reed Dance 5. It is a Form of Anti-aids Campaign All participants in the dance are required not to engage in sex before marriage. It is interesting that this requirement has been adhered to by the girls as evident by the number of girls who participate in the dance. 6. It Entails no Competition This eight-day ceremony is not a form of competition. It is meant to bring cohesion and a way of rebuilding the culture from apartheid. It also promotes a sense of cultural identity which is essential for nation building. 7. Unauthorized Photography is Prohibited Taking photos during the dance is discouraged. The dance is considered a traditional practice and it should not be confused with pornography. Since the photos should not be published on media platforms and phonographic sites, the Zulus discourage unauthorized photography. 8. The Ceremony is not Centuries Old Despite the fact that it has taken root, it should be remembered that in Swaziland, the dance commenced during the reign of king Mswati. Reed Dance 2 9. The Activities that Take Place During the Dance Does not Signify that All is Well in Swaziland Normally, dances are meant to signify the good things in the society. Dances are common during celebrations and graduations but this is not the case in Swaziland. In this regard, we should not be fooled into believing and thinking that all is well in the kingdom of Eswatini. It is even surprising to note that about 80% of the girls who participate in the dance come from families who rely on food aids while their king ranks among the richest individuals in Africa if not in the whole world. 10. The Dance is Full of Controversies There are a couple of controversies that surround the practice. For example, the dance is meant to discourage sex before marriage thus reducing the spread of sexually transmitted diseases such as Aids. However, Aids can also be contracted through anal sex which happens quite often in the kingdom and this defeats the purpose of reducing sexually transmitted diseases. A girl who has practiced anal sex is still considered a virgin during the dance. The criterion used in testing virginity is controversial too. Conclusion Various facts, information and controversies have been given about the reed dance. Some individuals and societies support the dance while some are against it, it’s left for you to judge

Read more: http://buzzsouthafrica.com/reed-dance/

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